Lee Davis Personally
Life experiences have equipped Lee in many special ways to understand how and why women must learn to mobilize their inner resources for self-fulfillment through effective coping skills, healthy relationships, and creative development. Although her academic experience has taught her a lot about human nature, her personal experiences have taught her about life.
As a child, abandoned by her parents, life on the city streets and in the foster care system, then a dysfunctional, abusive foster home where she was abused on a regular, often daily basis, left Lee feeling totally alone in the world.
Not quite a teenager, at the hands of her foster father, Lee was sexually abused. It started out with Lee having to “service” the man she had been calling “dad” since she was five. But once her bedroom was moved to the basement, it was intercourse she experienced three, four, sometimes five nights a week by this man.
There were others that took advantage of her blithe in life. As a young child, and then in babysitting situations, so-called relatives, both men and older boys, made her a target of their devious sexual behaviors. Of course, she didn’t say “no”. She couldn’t. And this is why.
A victim of learned helplessness, Lee didn’t have the internal boundaries she needed to defend herself. Totally controlled by her foster parents and taught that if she didn’t do what was expected of her, she would be taken back to the place from where she came, something she feared most in life. She knew without a doubt that if her foster parents knew what was happening to her, she would be blamed for it and off she would go.
In addition to, or because of, having strong emotional issues, Lee had a poor self-image and a strong sense of worthlessness. Being told that she was ugly, stupid, worthless, and many other derogatory names on a daily basis, being used as a punching bag for one foster parent and a sexual outlet for the other, she never saw herself as anything but ugly and stupid and worthless and unlovable. The clothes provided by the state to foster kids only added to the hatred she felt when she looked in the mirror each morning before going to school. She despised herself and the way she looked.
However, despite the dysfunctions in the foster home, and low self-esteem, Lee eventually learned self-reliance, self-control, anger management, and many other ways to cope in that environment on her own. In the school system, she learned how to seek mentoring from caring educators and library resources to build a strong belief and value system.
Lee has also had to deal with being the older, and only sister, to her sister who committed suicide as a young women, a brother who spent most of his life from the time he was a teen in the prison system, a foster brother who had always depended on her for emotional support who died of aids as a young man, the death of her biological mother, the inability to find her biological father, and the inability to locate her five step siblings born to her mother.
As a young single mother and welfare recipient, Lee learned gratitude while learning to support herself and her son. She learned to seek career development and educational opportunities wherever and whenever possible. Later, as a divorced woman, and victim of domestic violence, Lee picked herself up and forged ahead.
As a rape victim, who had been forced into a car one night at gunpoint by three men, she learned not only to be aware of her surroundings and to protect herself, but also how to forgive the unforgivable. When she had an abortion, she learned better self-care methods. And, as a bone marrow cancer and transplant survivor twice, she found that her previous struggles and achievements had prepared her to face the toughest battles of her life with determination and optimism.
Other experiences along the way, both pleasant and unpleasant, the coping skills to not only survive but thrive, and the determination to never give up, is what Lee imparts to other girls and women. In spite of how badly she felt about herself, somewhere in the recesses of her mind she knew there had to be something better.
Better than self-sabotage. Better than being a victim. Better than hopelessness and despair. Better than accepting that she was less than anyone else. Devastated by what was in the past and terrified by the unknown that lay before her, at age twenty-five Lee set out on a path of personal growth and development that led her half way across the country to a life better than she'd ever imagined.
Lee Davis has taken what she learned and continues to teach it to other women and girls.
She continues to persevere.
She continues to make her life work.
She clearly believes in staying in the solution.
Feel free to contact Lee if you have any questions, You can also send her info or questions at Contact Us.
As a child, abandoned by her parents, life on the city streets and in the foster care system, then a dysfunctional, abusive foster home where she was abused on a regular, often daily basis, left Lee feeling totally alone in the world.
Not quite a teenager, at the hands of her foster father, Lee was sexually abused. It started out with Lee having to “service” the man she had been calling “dad” since she was five. But once her bedroom was moved to the basement, it was intercourse she experienced three, four, sometimes five nights a week by this man.
There were others that took advantage of her blithe in life. As a young child, and then in babysitting situations, so-called relatives, both men and older boys, made her a target of their devious sexual behaviors. Of course, she didn’t say “no”. She couldn’t. And this is why.
A victim of learned helplessness, Lee didn’t have the internal boundaries she needed to defend herself. Totally controlled by her foster parents and taught that if she didn’t do what was expected of her, she would be taken back to the place from where she came, something she feared most in life. She knew without a doubt that if her foster parents knew what was happening to her, she would be blamed for it and off she would go.
In addition to, or because of, having strong emotional issues, Lee had a poor self-image and a strong sense of worthlessness. Being told that she was ugly, stupid, worthless, and many other derogatory names on a daily basis, being used as a punching bag for one foster parent and a sexual outlet for the other, she never saw herself as anything but ugly and stupid and worthless and unlovable. The clothes provided by the state to foster kids only added to the hatred she felt when she looked in the mirror each morning before going to school. She despised herself and the way she looked.
However, despite the dysfunctions in the foster home, and low self-esteem, Lee eventually learned self-reliance, self-control, anger management, and many other ways to cope in that environment on her own. In the school system, she learned how to seek mentoring from caring educators and library resources to build a strong belief and value system.
Lee has also had to deal with being the older, and only sister, to her sister who committed suicide as a young women, a brother who spent most of his life from the time he was a teen in the prison system, a foster brother who had always depended on her for emotional support who died of aids as a young man, the death of her biological mother, the inability to find her biological father, and the inability to locate her five step siblings born to her mother.
As a young single mother and welfare recipient, Lee learned gratitude while learning to support herself and her son. She learned to seek career development and educational opportunities wherever and whenever possible. Later, as a divorced woman, and victim of domestic violence, Lee picked herself up and forged ahead.
As a rape victim, who had been forced into a car one night at gunpoint by three men, she learned not only to be aware of her surroundings and to protect herself, but also how to forgive the unforgivable. When she had an abortion, she learned better self-care methods. And, as a bone marrow cancer and transplant survivor twice, she found that her previous struggles and achievements had prepared her to face the toughest battles of her life with determination and optimism.
Other experiences along the way, both pleasant and unpleasant, the coping skills to not only survive but thrive, and the determination to never give up, is what Lee imparts to other girls and women. In spite of how badly she felt about herself, somewhere in the recesses of her mind she knew there had to be something better.
Better than self-sabotage. Better than being a victim. Better than hopelessness and despair. Better than accepting that she was less than anyone else. Devastated by what was in the past and terrified by the unknown that lay before her, at age twenty-five Lee set out on a path of personal growth and development that led her half way across the country to a life better than she'd ever imagined.
Lee Davis has taken what she learned and continues to teach it to other women and girls.
She continues to persevere.
She continues to make her life work.
She clearly believes in staying in the solution.
Feel free to contact Lee if you have any questions, You can also send her info or questions at Contact Us.